Consent is Sober. Consent is Communicated. Consent is the act of Respect. Lopers Get Consent!
“No man is good enough to govern another man without the other’s consent.” – Abraham Lincoln
REMEMBER: ** If you have to question if someone is sober enough to consent, it is best to error on the side of caution. **
The majority of sexual assaults are occurring during the social scenes at college. They tend to happen when students are partying or letting loose on the weekends. The university is committed to providing an institutional environment where all persons may pursue their studies, careers, duties and activities in an atmosphere free of threat of unwelcome and unwanted sexual actions. UNK will not tolerate any form of sexual misconduct.
Mutual. Consent is a voluntary, sober, enthusiastic, wanted, honest and it is a mutual agreement based on shared desire for specific sexual activities.
Ongoing. Consent is a verbal interaction process, ask every step of the way and take one step at a time. If you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, ask and respect the honest answer.
Respectful. Consent is never implied and cannot be assumed, both people need to be involved in the decision to have sexual intimacy. The absence of a “no” does not mean “yes”.
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Power. The imbalance of physical size, strength, status or authority should not be the reason to give consent. This imbalance can make it difficult to honestly express desires and limits.
Coercion. Obtaining a “yes” by threatening, forcing, manipulation, intimidation, pressuring, blackmailing, drugging or by getting the individual drunk is NOT mutual consent. Consent cannot be coerced!
Implied. Consent given once does not mean always and being in a relationship does not mean you have permission to have sex with your partner. Consent is an important part of a healthy relationship.
The Absence of ‘NO’. If a person is incapacitated due to intoxication, mental illness or deficiency or by physical illness or disability to the extent that personal decision making is impossible then consent is also impossible. Surprise may also prevent resistance, as where a person is grabbed from behind.
Ask. You must ask permission to engage in sexual behavior, whether or not you were the one who first initiated the sexual contact.
Communicate. Be clear on exactly what your intentions and expectations are when asking for consent. Open communication, respect and honesty allows sex and relationships to be better.
Listen. A crucial part to getting consent is hearing the answer back from the person you sought consent from. Was it a clear, positive and enthusiastic response back?
Be Clear. State exactly what you desire and if you don’t wish to go any further bluntly say, “no”. NO means NO, in a healthy relationship your partner will respect your decision every time.
Speak Up. If at any point you want to stop engaging in the sexual activity, speak up and state how you are feeling. It is normal to change your mind and by openly communicating this shows respect for yourself and your partner.